Good morning Ma Petities,
Today I want to talk to you about taking care of yourself. I know that we have talked about taking time to take care of your mental and emotional health but I want to talk to you about take care of your health as well. I want to encourage you to not ignore your body. If you don't feel well, something hurts, or you can't explain something you have going on with your body; go to the doctor. Don't put it off, suffer through it, or ignore it. Trust your mama, ignoring your body will only lead to more pain in the long run.
Now I know some of you may be worried about going to the doctor for fear of judgement about weight or lifestyle. I encourage you to find a Doc you like and that understands that you are an indivdual. If the doc you are seeing mentions your weight, inform them that you are not their to be seen about you weight. Ask them to take of what you are there for. If they continue to harp on it remember that they are there to take care of you and that you can chose a different doctor. Do not allow yourself to be held hostage that doesn't respect you.
Now I am not saying that dieting is wrong but if you chose to diet please do it for you. Please do not do it because people, even medical professionals, are pressuring you. I suggest that you get to know your body. Learn what works for you. Not everyone is meant to be a size 2 or even a size 10. Monitor your blood pressure and blood sugar, exercise and eat healthy. Your body will find its healthy weight and wither that is 110 or 210 please know that you are beautiful, sensual, and sexy beyond belief.
Monday, May 30, 2011
Sunday, May 22, 2011
worrying about nothing
Hello Ma Petities
First I must apologize for my long absence. Your mama has been very ill and has had to have some time off
Tonight I want to talk to you about worrying about nothing. So often we women worry about things that don't matter to our men, hair, makeup, and fashion.
We also worry about pleasing them. I know that I worry about pleasing my man quite often. even more so when I am ill, in pain, or in general having a lazy day. I have found that quite often during those times he worries about me more than he worries about wither or not I'm making him dinner, giving him sex, or cleaning the house. He simply wants me to feel good, be happy, and to make sure that our relationship is still strong. He loves me so much that he would rather take care of me, comfort me, and love me than press anything on me.
I think that all of us need to trust in our loves more. We need to have faith in our relationships, believe that our loves care for us more than just what we can give them. The more we worry about pleasing them, the more we foster the seed of doubt with in our own mind. The lack of trust we show in the ever persistent need to please can also plant seeds of doubt in our Love's mind. It also shows that we don't think that we are worthy of the love, respect, and devotion that our Love's give us. We need to believe in ourselves, believe that we are worthy.
Once we believe in ourselves I truly believe that our relationships will be stronger and better. I believe that our relationship will be enriched in amazing ways. Ladies I know how hard it is to over come the American ideal of what is beautiful, sexy, worthy of admiration but please remember that your Love loves you for who you are, not some photo-shopped ideal on a TV screen. Try to see your self through his eyes and know that you are worthy of all the love and devotion he can give you.
First I must apologize for my long absence. Your mama has been very ill and has had to have some time off
Tonight I want to talk to you about worrying about nothing. So often we women worry about things that don't matter to our men, hair, makeup, and fashion.
We also worry about pleasing them. I know that I worry about pleasing my man quite often. even more so when I am ill, in pain, or in general having a lazy day. I have found that quite often during those times he worries about me more than he worries about wither or not I'm making him dinner, giving him sex, or cleaning the house. He simply wants me to feel good, be happy, and to make sure that our relationship is still strong. He loves me so much that he would rather take care of me, comfort me, and love me than press anything on me.
I think that all of us need to trust in our loves more. We need to have faith in our relationships, believe that our loves care for us more than just what we can give them. The more we worry about pleasing them, the more we foster the seed of doubt with in our own mind. The lack of trust we show in the ever persistent need to please can also plant seeds of doubt in our Love's mind. It also shows that we don't think that we are worthy of the love, respect, and devotion that our Love's give us. We need to believe in ourselves, believe that we are worthy.
Once we believe in ourselves I truly believe that our relationships will be stronger and better. I believe that our relationship will be enriched in amazing ways. Ladies I know how hard it is to over come the American ideal of what is beautiful, sexy, worthy of admiration but please remember that your Love loves you for who you are, not some photo-shopped ideal on a TV screen. Try to see your self through his eyes and know that you are worthy of all the love and devotion he can give you.
Thursday, March 17, 2011
finding the perfect fit
Good morning Ma Petities
I was curled up with my honey the other night and he did a sweet thing for me and i jokingly told him "I knew there was a reason I was marrying you." Well that statement got me to thinking. How do you know when you have found your perfect fit? I know I use to ask everyone around me who was in love how they knew it was right and most told me you just know. I, however, have a better answer to that question.
You know you have found the perfect fit when you don't sleep well with out them next to them. You long to go out of your way to do nice things for them. You see things that makes you think of them or things that they do. you open your self to them in ways that you have never done before. You feel safe, warm, truly loved, and most importantly comfortable. You know your perfect fit when the person you are with is etched on your body, mind, and soul. They become as much a part of you as your right hand.
For my babies who are still looking for their perfect fit: when you find it you will know but I hope that the answer above gives you some things to look for if you aren't sure
I was curled up with my honey the other night and he did a sweet thing for me and i jokingly told him "I knew there was a reason I was marrying you." Well that statement got me to thinking. How do you know when you have found your perfect fit? I know I use to ask everyone around me who was in love how they knew it was right and most told me you just know. I, however, have a better answer to that question.
You know you have found the perfect fit when you don't sleep well with out them next to them. You long to go out of your way to do nice things for them. You see things that makes you think of them or things that they do. you open your self to them in ways that you have never done before. You feel safe, warm, truly loved, and most importantly comfortable. You know your perfect fit when the person you are with is etched on your body, mind, and soul. They become as much a part of you as your right hand.
For my babies who are still looking for their perfect fit: when you find it you will know but I hope that the answer above gives you some things to look for if you aren't sure
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Treats for your man
Hello Ma Petities
Lately my love and I have been working on strengthening our relationship and I have found out a wonderful thing about him that I want to share with you to try on your man. My man likes to be pampered. He likes pedicures and having me shave him.
Now my love is in no way a metro sexual guy. He works with his hand and is big and burly which I love about him so it caught me by surprise when he told me how much he enjoys being pampered.
this all started because he mentioned a place in our mall did straight razor shaves before christmas, well as a stocking stuffer I got him a gift card to go and get one. well that opened pandora's box and began the road we are on. He enjoyed the shave so much that he bought a razor, started shaving that way and on occasion having me shave him.
Also, I have been trying to work on his feet....the poor man's feet are bad, babies. He has cracks half an inch deep. So I started giving him pedicures at home to get rid of the dead skin and the calluses from hell. well next thing I know he is asking every night if I am going to attack his feet.
well between these two things I had to ask my man's man what was going on. He blushed and admitted that he is enjoying being pampered. it is a completely new sensation for him as he has never had a partner who took as good a care of him that he took of them. He enjoys the intimacy that comes with it and I must admit I enjoy the trust that it shows between us.
So Ma Petities, take the time to find a way to pamper your man. He may be reluctant at first but I would bet that once he feels the sensation of being cared for by you he will be more than happy to indulge any time you want
Lately my love and I have been working on strengthening our relationship and I have found out a wonderful thing about him that I want to share with you to try on your man. My man likes to be pampered. He likes pedicures and having me shave him.
Now my love is in no way a metro sexual guy. He works with his hand and is big and burly which I love about him so it caught me by surprise when he told me how much he enjoys being pampered.
this all started because he mentioned a place in our mall did straight razor shaves before christmas, well as a stocking stuffer I got him a gift card to go and get one. well that opened pandora's box and began the road we are on. He enjoyed the shave so much that he bought a razor, started shaving that way and on occasion having me shave him.
Also, I have been trying to work on his feet....the poor man's feet are bad, babies. He has cracks half an inch deep. So I started giving him pedicures at home to get rid of the dead skin and the calluses from hell. well next thing I know he is asking every night if I am going to attack his feet.
well between these two things I had to ask my man's man what was going on. He blushed and admitted that he is enjoying being pampered. it is a completely new sensation for him as he has never had a partner who took as good a care of him that he took of them. He enjoys the intimacy that comes with it and I must admit I enjoy the trust that it shows between us.
So Ma Petities, take the time to find a way to pamper your man. He may be reluctant at first but I would bet that once he feels the sensation of being cared for by you he will be more than happy to indulge any time you want
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Falling in love again
Hello Ma Petities
I hope that you are welcoming the spring as a time of renewal the same way I am. As the sun comes out and the earth awakens I find that my love and passion for my honey are awakening too.
Every relationship goes through rough patches where stress, conflict, and life in general severely dampen the romance, passion and "honeymoon" love. We all know that once that stage of a relationship is over you can't bring it back. That is true but I am here to tell you that you can have the better more mature version of it. I call it falling in love again and it really isn't hard to do but it does take effort.
You have to find a way to let your responsibilities go for a few minutes a day. take the time to be silly with your partner, to pamper them and let them pamper you, When you see something that makes that makes you think of them share it with them. Take the time each day to really look at your love and remember everything that you love about them. Most importantly tell them every day how much you love and appreciate them.
All these things seem like such little things but we often lose the little things in the stress of everyday life. Look at your relationship. when was the last time you really looked at your partner, told them you loved them in more than just passing, laughed with them? If it has been more than a few days for any of these you need to do some work on your relationship.
Take the time to fall in love again. Your relationship will be stronger and healthier for it.
I hope that you are welcoming the spring as a time of renewal the same way I am. As the sun comes out and the earth awakens I find that my love and passion for my honey are awakening too.
Every relationship goes through rough patches where stress, conflict, and life in general severely dampen the romance, passion and "honeymoon" love. We all know that once that stage of a relationship is over you can't bring it back. That is true but I am here to tell you that you can have the better more mature version of it. I call it falling in love again and it really isn't hard to do but it does take effort.
You have to find a way to let your responsibilities go for a few minutes a day. take the time to be silly with your partner, to pamper them and let them pamper you, When you see something that makes that makes you think of them share it with them. Take the time each day to really look at your love and remember everything that you love about them. Most importantly tell them every day how much you love and appreciate them.
All these things seem like such little things but we often lose the little things in the stress of everyday life. Look at your relationship. when was the last time you really looked at your partner, told them you loved them in more than just passing, laughed with them? If it has been more than a few days for any of these you need to do some work on your relationship.
Take the time to fall in love again. Your relationship will be stronger and healthier for it.
Friday, February 4, 2011
The Death of a Relationship
Hello Ma Petities,
In our lifetime each of us will see the cycle of life time and time again; in everything from the changing seasons to the birth of a new child and the passing of a loved one. Relationships go through this cycle as well. They are born in an explosion of passion, lust, and excitement. They cool to a warm loving simmer and some times they end in a fiery crash that kills any hope of rebirth or change.
We as humans can be exceedingly cruel when our emotions are painful. We say things that we don't whole heartily mean, sometimes we say things that are so hurtful that they are unforgivable. We want so badly for the other person to feel our pain that we end up killing any emotion that they may feel for us. In our anger and pain we forget that the other person may be hurting as well, we ignore their attempts at compromise, and we rage at them uncontrollably. We wish them pain and suffering, we insult them, we prey on the things that they are insecure about, and we place our misconceived perception of their actions on them. We hurt them and hate it when they fight back. For whatever reason we chose to do this we show our base personality and the worse parts of us. We show what monsters we can be. We reek such havoc that nothing can be salvaged. We become our own worst enemy.
In times like these there is nothing that can be done. There is no phoenix that will rise from the ashes of this destruction. The only thing we can do is pick up the pieces of our hearts and hope that we learn from the relationship and remember the good times and hope that the people we have hurt so bad some day come to the same point. We can not hope for forgiveness and we can not hope for understanding. The pain we cause with our actions in these types of situations is unrepairable. Our own growth is the only silver lining.
I hope Ma Petities that you never experience this on either end. I hope that my words of warning here help you to control your words, emotions and actions. I hope that you never hurt someone you "love" and who loves you so badly that you can never be forgiven. It is an awful feeling on both ends and one that ultimately un-enriches your life.
In our lifetime each of us will see the cycle of life time and time again; in everything from the changing seasons to the birth of a new child and the passing of a loved one. Relationships go through this cycle as well. They are born in an explosion of passion, lust, and excitement. They cool to a warm loving simmer and some times they end in a fiery crash that kills any hope of rebirth or change.
We as humans can be exceedingly cruel when our emotions are painful. We say things that we don't whole heartily mean, sometimes we say things that are so hurtful that they are unforgivable. We want so badly for the other person to feel our pain that we end up killing any emotion that they may feel for us. In our anger and pain we forget that the other person may be hurting as well, we ignore their attempts at compromise, and we rage at them uncontrollably. We wish them pain and suffering, we insult them, we prey on the things that they are insecure about, and we place our misconceived perception of their actions on them. We hurt them and hate it when they fight back. For whatever reason we chose to do this we show our base personality and the worse parts of us. We show what monsters we can be. We reek such havoc that nothing can be salvaged. We become our own worst enemy.
In times like these there is nothing that can be done. There is no phoenix that will rise from the ashes of this destruction. The only thing we can do is pick up the pieces of our hearts and hope that we learn from the relationship and remember the good times and hope that the people we have hurt so bad some day come to the same point. We can not hope for forgiveness and we can not hope for understanding. The pain we cause with our actions in these types of situations is unrepairable. Our own growth is the only silver lining.
I hope Ma Petities that you never experience this on either end. I hope that my words of warning here help you to control your words, emotions and actions. I hope that you never hurt someone you "love" and who loves you so badly that you can never be forgiven. It is an awful feeling on both ends and one that ultimately un-enriches your life.
Monday, January 31, 2011
some times you can't fix what is broken
Ma Petities,
your mama is sad today. I broke a vase that I had had for years and dearly loved. I knocked it off the counter when I was getting ready to clean it and it broke into several pieces. Armed with gorilla glue and a blow dryer I tried to put it back together again. For a while it looked promising, all the big pieces fit together and it was retaking its beautiful form. But eventually I came to realise that while all the big pieces were there it was the little ones that were missing that would make my vase whole and water tight again. As I looked at my once beautiful vase I got to thinking about relationships.
Sometimes in life we are the proud owners of a beautiful relationship. Then out of no where something happens that breaks that relationship and you love it so much that you scoop up all the pieces you can find and set down to put it back together again. You want to believe that something so beautiful could never be ruined beyond repair. you twist and turn the pieces, forcing them together, cementing them with glue in hopes that you can repair this treasure. However sometimes you just can't fix what is broken. Sometimes the breaking destroys the tiny magic that holds all the big pieces together. While you can glue the big pieces together your relationship will never be as strong or as water tight as it was. Glue loses its hold, cracks spread with time, and the whole relationship is a fragile imitation of what it once was.
When this happens to a relationship, its no ones fault. you both tried to fix things, neither one of you held back the magical tiny piece that would make it whole once again. While there is sorrow there shouldn't be anger at your partner. Neither one of you meant to break the relationship, sometimes accidents just happen.
Now I'm off to find a new vase to put my flowers in but I'll leave you with this parting thought. Are you trying to fix something that can't be fixed and if you are how long are you going to fight with it until you let it go?
your mama is sad today. I broke a vase that I had had for years and dearly loved. I knocked it off the counter when I was getting ready to clean it and it broke into several pieces. Armed with gorilla glue and a blow dryer I tried to put it back together again. For a while it looked promising, all the big pieces fit together and it was retaking its beautiful form. But eventually I came to realise that while all the big pieces were there it was the little ones that were missing that would make my vase whole and water tight again. As I looked at my once beautiful vase I got to thinking about relationships.
Sometimes in life we are the proud owners of a beautiful relationship. Then out of no where something happens that breaks that relationship and you love it so much that you scoop up all the pieces you can find and set down to put it back together again. You want to believe that something so beautiful could never be ruined beyond repair. you twist and turn the pieces, forcing them together, cementing them with glue in hopes that you can repair this treasure. However sometimes you just can't fix what is broken. Sometimes the breaking destroys the tiny magic that holds all the big pieces together. While you can glue the big pieces together your relationship will never be as strong or as water tight as it was. Glue loses its hold, cracks spread with time, and the whole relationship is a fragile imitation of what it once was.
When this happens to a relationship, its no ones fault. you both tried to fix things, neither one of you held back the magical tiny piece that would make it whole once again. While there is sorrow there shouldn't be anger at your partner. Neither one of you meant to break the relationship, sometimes accidents just happen.
Now I'm off to find a new vase to put my flowers in but I'll leave you with this parting thought. Are you trying to fix something that can't be fixed and if you are how long are you going to fight with it until you let it go?
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