Feeling disconnected

Welcome Ma Petites,

How many of you have layed in bed with your partner and felt like they were a million miles away?

I know I have felt this disconnection. I know the hurt it can cause and the questions it can bring up. When you find yourself in this situation in your relationship I know it can be hard to figure out how to fix it.  It often feels like there is no way back across the chasim that has formed between you and your partner. But that isn't true. Don't give up on your relationship just because you have hit a rough patch.

First take the time to look at what is really going on in the reationship. is there ouside stress going on? If yes then wait a bitand see if the relationship gets any better once that stress has eased. If no then find out what is going on. Second talk camly and rationally to your partner. DO NOT YELL AND SCREAM at them. Yelling andscreaming is not condusive to them telling you the truth or to fixing the relationship. Tell them how you feel and try not to place the blame anywhere. Your relationship should not be a score board but a path that you are trying to smooth out. Third make an effort to show your love.  Do little things for him, shave your legs all the way up, wear an outfit that you know he likes. Doing things like this will help to bulid a bridge across the divide and help to mend your relationship.

A good relationship is a lot of hardwork but the rewards of all that hard work are well worth it Ma Petites.