Dealing with a busy life

Ah Ma Petities come have a cup of coffee with me.

Your Mama is a stressed out lady and so I thought that this would be a good time to talk to you about stress and the way you should deal with it.

We all have stress in our lives and if you are anything like mama sometimes it can be overwhelming. You end up with some big plan looming in the near future and instead of looking forward to it you begin to dread it a little because of everything that gets piled on you to prepare for this plan.  This is not a fun state to be in and we all know it.  So let me give you a few tips that are helping Mama get through her crazy stress-filled days leading up to a big plan

1.) make a list of everything that needs to get done. this will help you to see all that you have to do and will also give you the satisfaction of crossing things off the list.

2.) break that list up into the days you have left before what ever you have planned. wither it be a party, wedding, or trip doing this can make the list seem less overwhelming and give you the joy of completing the tasks on your list with out the guilt of worrying about everything that hasn't been done yet.

3.) Ask for help. your man, friends, and family do not enjoy seeing you stressed out so let them help where they can. this not only lightens your load a bit but it also strengthens your relationships and builds a deeper trust in each other

4.) Try to keep calm when/if plans change. there is a saying that you should remember. it is: "men plan, God laughs." while i would like to say that this doesn't apply to us because we are women, i can't. I have a feeling that God laughs at us women more since we tend to be the planners in life. So when plans change try to stay calm and go with the flow, remember the willow and its strength.

5.) Last but not least reward yourself. the day before the plan or the day of the plan if you have the time take yourself out to the spa/ salon. get a mani and pedi, your hair washed and styled, and a little bit of make up put on. then buy yourself a cute new outfit and wear it in the very near future. pamper yourself and unwind so you can enjoy whatever it is you have planned.

we all have stressful times Ma Petities but we shouldn't allow that stress to rule our lives or create distance in our relationships. I hope these little tips will help you to de-stress the next big event in your life

Being taken care of

welcome back Ma Petities,

First off i need to apologize for being Mia for the past few days but I have been sick and my honey has been taking care of me and that is where this evening's post comes from.

Now i don't know about you all but i generally hate being taken care of but my honey loves to do it so i have been working on taking it better. In doing this i have found that while i don't like it in a day to day situation i truly enjoy it when I am sick. I love that he goes out of his way to do the little things that might make me feel better especially when i know that it makes him feel better to do so.  I have found that i love seeing his manly desire to take care of his woman and to make my world better even if it is for a moment.

So perhaps babies we have been missing a chance to bond with our men in our independence.  Perhaps we should let our men take care of us and use the experience to grow our relationships and to see our men in a new light. Because babies there is nothing sexier than a man who takes care of his woman and does everything in his power to make his woman's world a bright shining place.

So babies let your man take care of you this week and see if it doesn't make your world a better place.

Finding the Romance

Hello Ma Petities,

I hope this evening finds you all cozied up with the one you love and wallowing in happiness.

I want to talk you about finding the romance in the little things tonight. So often we make romance out to be this grand gesture when really romance is about the little things that keep the pot of love simmering.

Instead of expecting wine and roses look for the romance in the way your love cares for you wither it be cooking dinner or bringing you a special treat on their way home from work. Spend a day off naked in bed together talking, watching tv, and cuddling. Let the physical sensation of skin against skin fuel a day of romance. I assure you that you'll find yourselves talking intimately, feeding each other, and finding a sensuality you never imagined existed in your relationship.

Take a drive through your city and look at architecture, find new places to explore and make memories together. The memories you make on these trips will stick with you longer than any cliché romantic dinner because they not only move your relationship forward but they also form an unbreakable bond between you and your love.

Find the romance in the little day to day things your love does for you. Appreciate that he always gets you a soda when he gets one for himself, that he kills the spider in the bathroom for you, or that he always makes sure that you are covered so you won't get cold at night. These are just a few examples of the romantic gestures our men make for us that so often go unnoticed. We are so brain washed by the media to think that only the gestures that hit us over the head like a two by four are romantic that we fail to see the beauty in the little day to day things that keep a relationship going.

So babies I challenge you to find the daily romance in your relationship and appreciate it. Let it fuel the fire under your pot of love to keep it simmering and hot.

The Ex Factor

Evenin Ma Petities,

We all have have them in our relationships whether it be an amours old flame on your side or a clingy ex on his side.  Ex's can cause huge problems in a otherwise strong relationship. They cause strife, insecurity and jealousy. With a simple phone call they can ruin a romantic evening or start the day off on a sour note.  Those of us who are friends with our ex's need to remember the hurt that those friendships can unintentionally cause our loved ones and take what ever steps necessary to make them feel secure, loved and cared for.

So Here are some tips for doing just that.

Be honest with both your mate and your ex.  Let them both know exactly where your relationships with them stand.

Defend your loved one. we all have that ex that is trying to get back into our lives, who bad mouths our current loved one and dismisses our relationship with them. Do Not allow this.

Let your loved one know if you are making semi-plans with your ex. Don't let it blind side them.

Last but not least let your loved one know that no matter what the ex says you love them and have no intention of leaving them. Remind them that your ex is your ex for a reason.

Put these few tips into action and your relationships will be a hell of a lot stronger when it comes to the ex factor

taking an adventure

Welcome Ma Petities,

I want to encourage you to take an adventure today. So often we lose our self in the hussel and bussle of our day to day lives that we don't take the time to see the possiblities for adventure all around us.

In my house we have a planned sponainaty bag. This bag includes three days worth of clothes and the essentials we need to live our lives out of our house. we throw the dogs in the car, grab the bag and then pick a direction to drive in. We have found the most beautiful places in throwing caution to the wind and just going.

our latest trip took us to the cute town of Galena, Il.  There we ate at a wonderful diner, strolled breifly along the streets and walked the dogs along the river. We were unable to enjoy as much of the town as we would have liked as we got there later in the day and like most small towns the shops were closed by five pm. The day, drive, and suprises we found made the trip a romantic getaway.

so babies don't worry about the destination. hop in the car with your love and pick a direction. you never know what you'll find but i promise you the trip will be one of the most romantic of your life.

Let your man be a man

Hello Ma Petities

So how many of us are guilty of saying I don't need help I can do it myself? I know I am. My honey and I are continuously going back and forth about the fact that I won't let him help me. It is a lesson that I am working on myself since he recently brought it to my attention that when I don't let him help me it cuts into his manliness a bit

Now i know that we went through women's lib so that we could tell men that we didn't need their help but I don't think any of us thought about how it would affect the men around us. Allowing them to help us even though we might not need it is such a little thing. yet it means so much to them. Let your man help/do something for you even if it really doesn't help. Let him know that you need him as a woman needs a man.

They make us feel needed so often. We need to find a way to balance our independence with showing our need for them. We need to let them feel like men again.

My honey teases me about the fact that disney movies make me cry with out fail. He loves the fact that his woman who is normally is so strong needs him to hold her while watching cartoons. In that moment I am the ultimate female and he is the uber man. those moments strengthen and deepen our relationship.

Ma Petites find these little moments and your relationship with blossom before you in ways you never imagined. Let your man be a man, give into your femininity and find out how much better the world is when you do so.

appreciating old dogs

Evening Ma Petites,

My honey continuously tells me he is an old dog who can't learn new tricks. I always laugh but I think that it is a very true statement. In fact I think it is true for most men over the age of 25.  Men unlike women get set in their way very early on and babies trying to change them is a exercise in futility.

We should embrace the fact that they are old dogs. They are loyal, trustworthy, and while not the best communicators they will do all in their power to show how much they love you.

I think that we women tend to put to much stock in words. Actions speak So much louder than words do. However we always want the words, sometimes more than we want the actions. We need to step back and reevaluate our needs.  Personally i would rather have a man who does little things just to show me he loves me than all the hot air of words in the world. Wouldn't you?

Perhaps we simply need to learn to communicate in their language. If we learned how much the little actions meant would the words be as important to us? Maybe we should cut our old dogs some slack, learn to clarify what they meant, and develop tougher skin.  I think we also need to learn when we should come to the old dogs to talk. Lets face it Ma petites if you want to just rant about things your girlfriends are a better bet. Old dogs tend to be fixers, while they listen they are coming up with solutions, so if you don't want that you probably shouldn't come to them.

We women are the great communicators so why can't we find a way to communicate with our old dogs. They try so hard to communicate with us. If we put in half their effort we would be able to meet them at least half way. Wouldn't it be nice to be able to say everything in a single touch or the simple act of making them breakfast? Think of all the fights that could be avoided if before getting our feelings hurt we stopped them and said ok this is what i just heard is this what you actually meant? Think how your relationship with the loyal old dog would grow with just a little bit of effort on your part to learn a new trick.

So babies this week appreciate that old dog laying in bed next to you and make the effort to communicate in his language.  He might be a little rough around the edges but no one will love you more.