Good Morning Ma Petities,
You mama is very disappointed in her self. I got into a fight with someone I loves very much and I said somethings that hurt that person a lot. No matter how bad I feel about saying them in the heat of the moment or how many times I apologize for doing it, I know that they can not be taken back. I know that they will have to be worked through for our relationship to heal. However Ma Petities, this fight taught me something that I can now pass on to you.
Little things in your relationship that bother you and you back burner do not cool off or stop cooking. In fact putting them on the back burner can lead to a pot boiling over when you are least expecting it. Its like a pot left on the back burner of a stove where the oven is on below it. You set it there to get it out of the way but keep it warm and when you aren't looking the heat of the over turns it red hot and burns the bottom of what ever you were keeping warm. So it is with the little hurts and upsets that every relationship has. you put them on that back burner because other things in life are more important or more pressing and when you aren't paying attention the heat from everyday life has them overcooked and you and your loved one are sitting across the room screaming at each other over things that aren't really all that important and words get said because of all that heat that you don't really mean and regret deeply afterwards.
So Ma Petities take it from some one who knows, don't let the little things build up, don't put them on the back burner and forget about them. Open up and deal with them right then and there if you can and don't let more than 24 hours go with out dealing with them. It is a whole lot easier to clean up a small mess in the kitchen than it is to clean up the pot that explodes from to much heat.
Friday, December 31, 2010
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Merry Christmas
Merry Christmas Ma Petities,
I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and are getting ready for a spectacular New Year.
I want you all to think about the glee you had as children about this time of year. So often as adults we get so wound up in the busyness of thing that we forget the magic. I hope that you all are able for at least a moment to put aside the stresses of day to day adult life and allow yourself to get caught up in the magic of the season. Apprecate the beauty of snow covered trees, wallow in the aroma of lovingly prepared meals cooking, delight in the presents under the tree, and belive in the magic of christmas once again.
Find your child-like glee, lose your worries in the magic. It will recharge you in a way you would have never thought.
I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and are getting ready for a spectacular New Year.
I want you all to think about the glee you had as children about this time of year. So often as adults we get so wound up in the busyness of thing that we forget the magic. I hope that you all are able for at least a moment to put aside the stresses of day to day adult life and allow yourself to get caught up in the magic of the season. Apprecate the beauty of snow covered trees, wallow in the aroma of lovingly prepared meals cooking, delight in the presents under the tree, and belive in the magic of christmas once again.
Find your child-like glee, lose your worries in the magic. It will recharge you in a way you would have never thought.
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Want to Vs Have to
Good Morning Ma Petities,
I had an interesting conversation with my love the other day about how I didn't have to get him the tools to begin his mead making again for Christmas. I laughed at him and told him that Christmas was not about have to but about want to. This conversation made me think about how often we do things for a partners out of a have to mental state.
I often tell my love that having dinner or breakfast ready when my love comes home from work because that is my responsibility in our relationship. He often tells me how I don't have to do it or how if I am tired I should just rest. While I tell him that it is my responsibility which can come across as a have to attitude I don't feel that I have. I want to do that for him, I want to take care of him the same way he takes care of me.
My kitchen is not a place of have to's but a place of want to's. it is a place where I can show a physical representation of my love, devotion, and care for my loved ones. I think that often times we do things for our partners that are want to's but because of our presentation come across as have to's. We need to think about the way we present our acts of love to our partners so that they know that we do not feel like we are forced into doing things for them but do them out of a desire to show how much we love them.
Take the time today to evaluate how you show your appreciation to your loved one. Does it come across as a want to or a have to? If it comes across as a have to make sure that you are actually doing it for the right reasons and then make sure your partner knows how much you want to do special or day to day tasks for them. Show them the want to of your actions so that they know everyday how much you care. Don't let it be just during this holiday season that you make the want to's known.
I had an interesting conversation with my love the other day about how I didn't have to get him the tools to begin his mead making again for Christmas. I laughed at him and told him that Christmas was not about have to but about want to. This conversation made me think about how often we do things for a partners out of a have to mental state.
I often tell my love that having dinner or breakfast ready when my love comes home from work because that is my responsibility in our relationship. He often tells me how I don't have to do it or how if I am tired I should just rest. While I tell him that it is my responsibility which can come across as a have to attitude I don't feel that I have. I want to do that for him, I want to take care of him the same way he takes care of me.
My kitchen is not a place of have to's but a place of want to's. it is a place where I can show a physical representation of my love, devotion, and care for my loved ones. I think that often times we do things for our partners that are want to's but because of our presentation come across as have to's. We need to think about the way we present our acts of love to our partners so that they know that we do not feel like we are forced into doing things for them but do them out of a desire to show how much we love them.
Take the time today to evaluate how you show your appreciation to your loved one. Does it come across as a want to or a have to? If it comes across as a have to make sure that you are actually doing it for the right reasons and then make sure your partner knows how much you want to do special or day to day tasks for them. Show them the want to of your actions so that they know everyday how much you care. Don't let it be just during this holiday season that you make the want to's known.
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Banned from the Kitchen
Hello Ma Petities,
Today I would like to talk to you about how angry I have been with a member of our sex. I have been so angry that I have banned her from the warm and love of my kitchen. Babies, there are things that you just shouldn't do. You should never use your children as leverage. Nor should you try to take siblings away from each other. In your mama's eyes these are unacceptable actions.
Getting banned from the kitchen is hard to do but once it is done it takes a lot of time and work to get back into its warmth, comfort, and love. I think that there comes a time in all bad relationships; whether it is a romantic, platonic, or blood relationship; that the person being used, abused, or in general treated badly comes to the realization the they have had enough. Once that realization comes there is no going back. The person at fault can not gloss over it any more and that is when you get banned from their heart or in mama's world the kitchen.
The work that is required to get back to a good healthy relationship is difficult for both parties. The one who has had enough has to be over not only the anger but also the resentment and bitterness that comes with it. They have to be in a healthy emotional space where they can forgive which can take years to attain. The party that has taken advantage of the other person must be able to admit that they were wrong, be willing to ask and do what it takes to mend that relationship, and be able to be patient while the other party gets past the injury and starts to rebuild the trust that all relationships require.
Even once this is done the Kitchen will never be the same. Things will always be slightly out of place and on the edge of tumbling to the ground. The relationship will require more work on every one's part and even then it may not make it back to the strength it once had.
So babies take stock of your kitchen, clean out the messes in it, and make sure that you are loving, respecting, and liking everyone in it. Also make sure that everyone in it is doing the same for you. Because honey trust me when I say you don't want to be banned from mama's kitchen.
Today I would like to talk to you about how angry I have been with a member of our sex. I have been so angry that I have banned her from the warm and love of my kitchen. Babies, there are things that you just shouldn't do. You should never use your children as leverage. Nor should you try to take siblings away from each other. In your mama's eyes these are unacceptable actions.
Getting banned from the kitchen is hard to do but once it is done it takes a lot of time and work to get back into its warmth, comfort, and love. I think that there comes a time in all bad relationships; whether it is a romantic, platonic, or blood relationship; that the person being used, abused, or in general treated badly comes to the realization the they have had enough. Once that realization comes there is no going back. The person at fault can not gloss over it any more and that is when you get banned from their heart or in mama's world the kitchen.
The work that is required to get back to a good healthy relationship is difficult for both parties. The one who has had enough has to be over not only the anger but also the resentment and bitterness that comes with it. They have to be in a healthy emotional space where they can forgive which can take years to attain. The party that has taken advantage of the other person must be able to admit that they were wrong, be willing to ask and do what it takes to mend that relationship, and be able to be patient while the other party gets past the injury and starts to rebuild the trust that all relationships require.
Even once this is done the Kitchen will never be the same. Things will always be slightly out of place and on the edge of tumbling to the ground. The relationship will require more work on every one's part and even then it may not make it back to the strength it once had.
So babies take stock of your kitchen, clean out the messes in it, and make sure that you are loving, respecting, and liking everyone in it. Also make sure that everyone in it is doing the same for you. Because honey trust me when I say you don't want to be banned from mama's kitchen.
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Creating a new family
Good Morning Ma Petities
As I get ready to make breakfast this morning I feel compelled to talk you about how sometimes you have to create a new family.
Sometimes our actual family isn't healthy for us. Sometimes a member of our blood family is like a bruised or rotten section of potato. They drain energy, happiness, our strength, and need to be cut out so that the rest of family can remain healthy. Cutting this member out can be hard and often times down right terrifying but babies there comes a time when it is the only option to keep them from poisoning the rest of the family. I know that this process is difficult and seems harsh but the bright side of it all is that once you cut out that yucky part you can bring in good healthy people and make a new family. You can take that potato and add another to it and mash it up to make delicious food that is good for you, strengthens you, feeds your energy, and is just down right yummy. The new relationships you add, while they may not replace the person you had to remove, will make you and your family better. They are also a great support system as you go through the cutting process. Don't be afraid of leaning on them. tell them your fears and allow them to help you. Allow their love to hold you up and comfort you. Doing so will only make your and your family's bond with them stronger.
I want you to take stock of your family babies. Do you have a rotten part that is making the whole group sick? If so its time to do some cutting. Remember you'll be healthier for it and so will your whole family.
As I get ready to make breakfast this morning I feel compelled to talk you about how sometimes you have to create a new family.
Sometimes our actual family isn't healthy for us. Sometimes a member of our blood family is like a bruised or rotten section of potato. They drain energy, happiness, our strength, and need to be cut out so that the rest of family can remain healthy. Cutting this member out can be hard and often times down right terrifying but babies there comes a time when it is the only option to keep them from poisoning the rest of the family. I know that this process is difficult and seems harsh but the bright side of it all is that once you cut out that yucky part you can bring in good healthy people and make a new family. You can take that potato and add another to it and mash it up to make delicious food that is good for you, strengthens you, feeds your energy, and is just down right yummy. The new relationships you add, while they may not replace the person you had to remove, will make you and your family better. They are also a great support system as you go through the cutting process. Don't be afraid of leaning on them. tell them your fears and allow them to help you. Allow their love to hold you up and comfort you. Doing so will only make your and your family's bond with them stronger.
I want you to take stock of your family babies. Do you have a rotten part that is making the whole group sick? If so its time to do some cutting. Remember you'll be healthier for it and so will your whole family.
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Taking care of the babies
Hello Ma Petities,
Tonight your mama is very disappointed in a member of our sex. She wants all of you with childern to listen very closely. Children are a blessing not tools to be used to enrich your standing or keep men around.
Listen to me babies. Take precious care of your babies. Love them and do everything in your power to give them a wonderful childhood and a fighting chance to be healthy adults.
Children are like stew. they can come out wonderful, flavor filled, rich and hearty or they can come out weak, runny, lacking flavor and just plain awful. It all comes down to what you put into them and how you cook them. Put in good ingredients, cook them long and slow, and you will have children that are wonderful and look back on you with love, respect, and trust. Put in bad ingredients, force them to grow up faster than they should, and they will look back on you with distrust, lack of respect and you will end up losing them.
No mother has any right to blame their child for their own bad decisions. So babies don't you screw up your little ones or you'll have mama to deal with.
Tonight your mama is very disappointed in a member of our sex. She wants all of you with childern to listen very closely. Children are a blessing not tools to be used to enrich your standing or keep men around.
Listen to me babies. Take precious care of your babies. Love them and do everything in your power to give them a wonderful childhood and a fighting chance to be healthy adults.
Children are like stew. they can come out wonderful, flavor filled, rich and hearty or they can come out weak, runny, lacking flavor and just plain awful. It all comes down to what you put into them and how you cook them. Put in good ingredients, cook them long and slow, and you will have children that are wonderful and look back on you with love, respect, and trust. Put in bad ingredients, force them to grow up faster than they should, and they will look back on you with distrust, lack of respect and you will end up losing them.
No mother has any right to blame their child for their own bad decisions. So babies don't you screw up your little ones or you'll have mama to deal with.
Friday, December 10, 2010
Christmas Cookies
Hello Ma Petities,
I hope your house is filled with the warmth from a hot oven and the smell of sugary delights like mine is today.
Every year I make a list of sugary treats I am going to bake for this magical time of year. i buy the supplies and then take two or sometimes three days out of this hectic time of year to make several dozen of each type that makes the list. Then after they have been cooled and have tantalized me with their smell that promises sinful delight I carefully wrap them up in assorted tins and ship them to my loved ones.
My loved ones rarely know how much time and effort goes into creating this simple treat. They never see the long list of traditional and new recipes that I pour over to get just the right amount of home mixed with the excitement of something new. They never see the long hours spent mixing and slaving over a hot stove so that they can get a taste of home, love, and Christmas cheer every year. However, every year I am sent praise and thank you's for these tins of love. While my loved ones may never know how much work goes into them they always make it completely worth the work with their heart felt thanks.
My Christmas cookies are like relationships; while my loved ones may never know how much work I put in to make it happen they show me that all that work isn't in vain. They make it worth all the work that I put in. As a very dear friend of mine says "They make the juice worth the squeeze"
While family tradition is what made me chose cookies to show how much I love them, I encourage all of you to find that special treat that only you do for them. Give them something that comes with the opportunity to show not only their love for you but also their gratitude for all that you do through the year. Find your special tradition and let the love from this tradition fill your home with the magic of Christmas and renew your spirit for another year.
I hope your house is filled with the warmth from a hot oven and the smell of sugary delights like mine is today.
Every year I make a list of sugary treats I am going to bake for this magical time of year. i buy the supplies and then take two or sometimes three days out of this hectic time of year to make several dozen of each type that makes the list. Then after they have been cooled and have tantalized me with their smell that promises sinful delight I carefully wrap them up in assorted tins and ship them to my loved ones.
My loved ones rarely know how much time and effort goes into creating this simple treat. They never see the long list of traditional and new recipes that I pour over to get just the right amount of home mixed with the excitement of something new. They never see the long hours spent mixing and slaving over a hot stove so that they can get a taste of home, love, and Christmas cheer every year. However, every year I am sent praise and thank you's for these tins of love. While my loved ones may never know how much work goes into them they always make it completely worth the work with their heart felt thanks.
My Christmas cookies are like relationships; while my loved ones may never know how much work I put in to make it happen they show me that all that work isn't in vain. They make it worth all the work that I put in. As a very dear friend of mine says "They make the juice worth the squeeze"
While family tradition is what made me chose cookies to show how much I love them, I encourage all of you to find that special treat that only you do for them. Give them something that comes with the opportunity to show not only their love for you but also their gratitude for all that you do through the year. Find your special tradition and let the love from this tradition fill your home with the magic of Christmas and renew your spirit for another year.
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Taking in the little moments
Hello Ma Petities,
How often in your daily life do you take the time to enjoy the little moments of loving you have with your partner? Do you even realize that you have them or do they get brushed aside in the hussel and bustle of everyday life?
If you don't even realize you are having them then perhaps it is time to reevaluate your daily life. so often we miss the little moments we have with our partners. They happen all the time even if you are missing them. Look for them. they are quite often found in times where we are most often rushed.
the little moments are things like a long hug before he walks out the door, a moment of togetherness. These moments sustain our relationships through the hard times but also through the times when life just makes it hard to spend any real time together. they are the snack in the middle of the day that gets us to the big meal of the day. These relationship snacks are so important to the relationship as a whole yet often they are missed because we over look them or simply expect them.
Every time you feel that you and your partner aren't connected or that you need more of time, love or contact look for the little moments. sit in the bathroom and talk to your partner, hug your love tightly for no reason at all, do something sweet for them, take the time to show your partner how much you love them and take in the moments where they show you how much they love you.
Babies take the time not only to smell the roses in your life but also take the time to appreciate the little moments in your relationship. You will find yourself more fulfilled and happier in all aspects of your life if you do.
How often in your daily life do you take the time to enjoy the little moments of loving you have with your partner? Do you even realize that you have them or do they get brushed aside in the hussel and bustle of everyday life?
If you don't even realize you are having them then perhaps it is time to reevaluate your daily life. so often we miss the little moments we have with our partners. They happen all the time even if you are missing them. Look for them. they are quite often found in times where we are most often rushed.
the little moments are things like a long hug before he walks out the door, a moment of togetherness. These moments sustain our relationships through the hard times but also through the times when life just makes it hard to spend any real time together. they are the snack in the middle of the day that gets us to the big meal of the day. These relationship snacks are so important to the relationship as a whole yet often they are missed because we over look them or simply expect them.
Every time you feel that you and your partner aren't connected or that you need more of time, love or contact look for the little moments. sit in the bathroom and talk to your partner, hug your love tightly for no reason at all, do something sweet for them, take the time to show your partner how much you love them and take in the moments where they show you how much they love you.
Babies take the time not only to smell the roses in your life but also take the time to appreciate the little moments in your relationship. You will find yourself more fulfilled and happier in all aspects of your life if you do.
Sunday, December 5, 2010
Falling Down
Hello Ma Petities
Sometimes it takes a painful experince to remind us of the simple things in life. Last night I fell down and ended up with a bruised bottom and a very bruised ego. It reminded me that we all need help at some time. As my love was helping me up I came to the realization that while we often ask for help with physical things we rarely ask for help with emotional things.
This is an unfortinate trait. We should be willing to share what we are going through emotinally with our loved ones yet we so often we are scared to do this. We feel that if we need help we are weak, unhealthy, or needy. Trust me when I say this is not the case. Asking for help with the things we going through emotionally actually makes our relationships stronger and shows our own internal strength.
As we cope with or work through emotional difficulties we should lean on our partners. Talk to them, trust in them and show them that you not only want them to be a part of your life physically but mentally and emotionally as well. You trust them with your body, now you need to trust them with your heart as well.
I am well aware of how frightening it can be to take this step. However, to have a healthy relationship you need to open up to your partner. So open your heart and tell your love what is going on in your head and heart. Your relationship will be stronger for it.
Sometimes it takes a painful experince to remind us of the simple things in life. Last night I fell down and ended up with a bruised bottom and a very bruised ego. It reminded me that we all need help at some time. As my love was helping me up I came to the realization that while we often ask for help with physical things we rarely ask for help with emotional things.
This is an unfortinate trait. We should be willing to share what we are going through emotinally with our loved ones yet we so often we are scared to do this. We feel that if we need help we are weak, unhealthy, or needy. Trust me when I say this is not the case. Asking for help with the things we going through emotionally actually makes our relationships stronger and shows our own internal strength.
As we cope with or work through emotional difficulties we should lean on our partners. Talk to them, trust in them and show them that you not only want them to be a part of your life physically but mentally and emotionally as well. You trust them with your body, now you need to trust them with your heart as well.
I am well aware of how frightening it can be to take this step. However, to have a healthy relationship you need to open up to your partner. So open your heart and tell your love what is going on in your head and heart. Your relationship will be stronger for it.
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Giving thanks
Hello Ma Petities
How many of you are running around like chickens with their heads cut off as you prepare for the upcoming holiday? My guess would be most of you are. You are worried about getting gifts, decorating, wrapping said gifts, prepping Christmas dinner, and baking those cookies for Santa. Your plate is way to full for you to stop even for a moment right? Wrong!
Babies, stop for a moment every day and survey what you are grateful for. You wouldn't be doing all this running around if you were grateful for something but do you even know what it is. Can you list what you are grateful for? If you can't then you need to look at your priorities. This holiday season isn't about your to do list. It is about showing your love for the important people in your life.
Every day I look at my honey and I silently give thanks that he is in my life. I try to show him how much I love him through every thing I do. I have spent more than he thinks I should to make sure that this holiday is wonderful for him, but I didn't do this to keep up with the Jones or because that is what is expected by society. I did it because I want to show him how thankful I am to have him in my life.
Do your loved ones know how much they mean to you? Have you given thanks for them and the life you have because of them? Or have you just been wrapped up in the commercialized part of this holiday season?
Show your loved ones how grateful you are that they are in your life and this holiday season will be one of the best you have ever had no matter how big or small it is.
How many of you are running around like chickens with their heads cut off as you prepare for the upcoming holiday? My guess would be most of you are. You are worried about getting gifts, decorating, wrapping said gifts, prepping Christmas dinner, and baking those cookies for Santa. Your plate is way to full for you to stop even for a moment right? Wrong!
Babies, stop for a moment every day and survey what you are grateful for. You wouldn't be doing all this running around if you were grateful for something but do you even know what it is. Can you list what you are grateful for? If you can't then you need to look at your priorities. This holiday season isn't about your to do list. It is about showing your love for the important people in your life.
Every day I look at my honey and I silently give thanks that he is in my life. I try to show him how much I love him through every thing I do. I have spent more than he thinks I should to make sure that this holiday is wonderful for him, but I didn't do this to keep up with the Jones or because that is what is expected by society. I did it because I want to show him how thankful I am to have him in my life.
Do your loved ones know how much they mean to you? Have you given thanks for them and the life you have because of them? Or have you just been wrapped up in the commercialized part of this holiday season?
Show your loved ones how grateful you are that they are in your life and this holiday season will be one of the best you have ever had no matter how big or small it is.
Monday, November 29, 2010
speaking up about your needs
Good Evening Ma Petities,
Tonight I need to talk to you all about something that I am guilty of and need to caution you all about. My wonderful man and I are going through a rough time and it is because I haven't spoken up about my needs. He has been missing me and I have been missing him. This rough patch could have been avoided had I spoken up about my need for more time and more physical attention.
Everyone has needs with in a relationship that need to be met. However, we ladies have a bad habit of expecting our partners to read our minds or putting our needs on the back burner hoping that things will magically get better. Well babies relationships don't work that way. You need to speak up about your needs. Tell your partner where you are so that you don't end up with a huge rift between you.
Relationships take work and without talking about the things you need you are making your partner do all the work. So babies tell your partner what you need, make the effort to communicate, and put in your far share of the work on the relationship. You need to be an adult and admit what you need. Your relationship will be the better for it.
Tonight I need to talk to you all about something that I am guilty of and need to caution you all about. My wonderful man and I are going through a rough time and it is because I haven't spoken up about my needs. He has been missing me and I have been missing him. This rough patch could have been avoided had I spoken up about my need for more time and more physical attention.
Everyone has needs with in a relationship that need to be met. However, we ladies have a bad habit of expecting our partners to read our minds or putting our needs on the back burner hoping that things will magically get better. Well babies relationships don't work that way. You need to speak up about your needs. Tell your partner where you are so that you don't end up with a huge rift between you.
Relationships take work and without talking about the things you need you are making your partner do all the work. So babies tell your partner what you need, make the effort to communicate, and put in your far share of the work on the relationship. You need to be an adult and admit what you need. Your relationship will be the better for it.
Saturday, November 27, 2010
spoil yourself
Good evening Ma Petities,
During this hectic and often stressful time of year we tend to forget about taking care of ourselves. We rush around trying to make the holidays perfect for our loved ones and never stop to think about what we need. I know I do it on a real regular basis much to my man's frustration.
But Ma Petities listen to me when i say that you need to take care of yourself too or you will get burnt out. Leaving your loved ones with just a shell of the person they know and care about. This burn out doesn't make the holidays wonderful for anyone.
So babies take the time to spoil yourself this year. spend a little money on yourself, do something for your pleasure alone, or just take the time to decompress a little bit. Think of it as giving yourself a gift. A gift that not only benefits you but one that also benefits your loved ones. You'll feel a hundred times better for doing just a little something for yourself.
Spoil yourself and make this holiday season a happy one for everyone including yourself.
During this hectic and often stressful time of year we tend to forget about taking care of ourselves. We rush around trying to make the holidays perfect for our loved ones and never stop to think about what we need. I know I do it on a real regular basis much to my man's frustration.
But Ma Petities listen to me when i say that you need to take care of yourself too or you will get burnt out. Leaving your loved ones with just a shell of the person they know and care about. This burn out doesn't make the holidays wonderful for anyone.
So babies take the time to spoil yourself this year. spend a little money on yourself, do something for your pleasure alone, or just take the time to decompress a little bit. Think of it as giving yourself a gift. A gift that not only benefits you but one that also benefits your loved ones. You'll feel a hundred times better for doing just a little something for yourself.
Spoil yourself and make this holiday season a happy one for everyone including yourself.
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Feeling disconnected
Welcome Ma Petites,
How many of you have layed in bed with your partner and felt like they were a million miles away?
I know I have felt this disconnection. I know the hurt it can cause and the questions it can bring up. When you find yourself in this situation in your relationship I know it can be hard to figure out how to fix it. It often feels like there is no way back across the chasim that has formed between you and your partner. But that isn't true. Don't give up on your relationship just because you have hit a rough patch.
First take the time to look at what is really going on in the reationship. is there ouside stress going on? If yes then wait a bitand see if the relationship gets any better once that stress has eased. If no then find out what is going on. Second talk camly and rationally to your partner. DO NOT YELL AND SCREAM at them. Yelling andscreaming is not condusive to them telling you the truth or to fixing the relationship. Tell them how you feel and try not to place the blame anywhere. Your relationship should not be a score board but a path that you are trying to smooth out. Third make an effort to show your love. Do little things for him, shave your legs all the way up, wear an outfit that you know he likes. Doing things like this will help to bulid a bridge across the divide and help to mend your relationship.
A good relationship is a lot of hardwork but the rewards of all that hard work are well worth it Ma Petites.
How many of you have layed in bed with your partner and felt like they were a million miles away?
I know I have felt this disconnection. I know the hurt it can cause and the questions it can bring up. When you find yourself in this situation in your relationship I know it can be hard to figure out how to fix it. It often feels like there is no way back across the chasim that has formed between you and your partner. But that isn't true. Don't give up on your relationship just because you have hit a rough patch.
First take the time to look at what is really going on in the reationship. is there ouside stress going on? If yes then wait a bitand see if the relationship gets any better once that stress has eased. If no then find out what is going on. Second talk camly and rationally to your partner. DO NOT YELL AND SCREAM at them. Yelling andscreaming is not condusive to them telling you the truth or to fixing the relationship. Tell them how you feel and try not to place the blame anywhere. Your relationship should not be a score board but a path that you are trying to smooth out. Third make an effort to show your love. Do little things for him, shave your legs all the way up, wear an outfit that you know he likes. Doing things like this will help to bulid a bridge across the divide and help to mend your relationship.
A good relationship is a lot of hardwork but the rewards of all that hard work are well worth it Ma Petites.
Saturday, November 20, 2010
Put on your Big Girl Panties and Grow Up
Hello Ma Petites
Today I have some tough love for you. I want you all to look at how you handle stress, disappointment, and strife in your lives. Do you brace your self for it, communicate with your partner through it, and handle it with grace and wisdom; or do you throw a fit, yell and scream, and all around make an ass of yourself? If you answer the latter then here is my advice. PUT ON YOUR BIG GIRL PANTIES AND GROW UP.
Throwing a fit, yelling, and saying things you don't mean is childish and puts even more stress on your relationship. Trust me when I say that adding stress to an already stressful situation is not the way to keep your relationship healthy. It puts your partner into a situation where they think about ending the relationship because you lack the maturity to handle life in the real world.
The truth of the matter is that relationships are hard work and often times life gets in the way of being able to give every thing to them. You have to be able to get through those times on the hope that things will get better once the stress has disappated with out making the situation worse because once your partner has the thought about ending things it is much easier to come back to that thought in times of strife. It also puts you in a postion where you have to not only give more to the relationship after the stressful period but you are forced to do damage control to get your relationship back to a healthy point.
So Ma Petites it is time to grow up. Your relationships will be better for it I assure you
Today I have some tough love for you. I want you all to look at how you handle stress, disappointment, and strife in your lives. Do you brace your self for it, communicate with your partner through it, and handle it with grace and wisdom; or do you throw a fit, yell and scream, and all around make an ass of yourself? If you answer the latter then here is my advice. PUT ON YOUR BIG GIRL PANTIES AND GROW UP.
Throwing a fit, yelling, and saying things you don't mean is childish and puts even more stress on your relationship. Trust me when I say that adding stress to an already stressful situation is not the way to keep your relationship healthy. It puts your partner into a situation where they think about ending the relationship because you lack the maturity to handle life in the real world.
The truth of the matter is that relationships are hard work and often times life gets in the way of being able to give every thing to them. You have to be able to get through those times on the hope that things will get better once the stress has disappated with out making the situation worse because once your partner has the thought about ending things it is much easier to come back to that thought in times of strife. It also puts you in a postion where you have to not only give more to the relationship after the stressful period but you are forced to do damage control to get your relationship back to a healthy point.
So Ma Petites it is time to grow up. Your relationships will be better for it I assure you
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Asking for help
Hello Ma Petites,
your mama is a tired woman today. I have been running around like a chicken with its head cut off trying to get everything on my todo list done and babies it just hasn't been happening. So its time for me to do the thing that as an independent woman i hate to do. I have to ask for help.
Now babies i know how hard it can be to do this, trust me i hate doing it myself, but there comes a time when we just have too much on our plate and we need to do it. We often brace ourselves, stutter and stammer while asking, and more often than not feel like we have failed on some level because we couldn't do it all.
Well listen to mama, we are not super woman. there is nothing wrong with asking for some help and it doesn't make you a failure. asking for help shows wisdom. It allows you to finish everything and often times do a better job as a whole because you weren't so rushed to do things that you half assed everything. Asking for help also shows trust because whoever you ask to help you wither it be your man, girlfriend, or family member you are saying to them, "I trust you to have my back and to help me do this". This level of trust is huge i know and i know that we often want to check up on them every ten minuets to see if they are doing it "right" or in other words the way we would do it. But ladies listen to me when I say that if you trust them enough to ask them for help then trust that they are going to do it to the best of their ability and not screw you over. Asking them implies you trust them so go through with that and actually do it.
I think that today society has brain washed us in to believing that if we have to ask for help then we need to turn in our woman card because according to our society we should be able to be a mother, wife, career woman, girlfriend, activist, and have a hobby. now i don't know about you ladies but just the first one in that long list is a full time job. Any sane person would need help. so babies don't feel bad about asking for help. feel like you are taking care of not only the people around you but yourself as well. I know its hard but the more you do it the easier it will get i promise.
your mama is a tired woman today. I have been running around like a chicken with its head cut off trying to get everything on my todo list done and babies it just hasn't been happening. So its time for me to do the thing that as an independent woman i hate to do. I have to ask for help.
Now babies i know how hard it can be to do this, trust me i hate doing it myself, but there comes a time when we just have too much on our plate and we need to do it. We often brace ourselves, stutter and stammer while asking, and more often than not feel like we have failed on some level because we couldn't do it all.
Well listen to mama, we are not super woman. there is nothing wrong with asking for some help and it doesn't make you a failure. asking for help shows wisdom. It allows you to finish everything and often times do a better job as a whole because you weren't so rushed to do things that you half assed everything. Asking for help also shows trust because whoever you ask to help you wither it be your man, girlfriend, or family member you are saying to them, "I trust you to have my back and to help me do this". This level of trust is huge i know and i know that we often want to check up on them every ten minuets to see if they are doing it "right" or in other words the way we would do it. But ladies listen to me when I say that if you trust them enough to ask them for help then trust that they are going to do it to the best of their ability and not screw you over. Asking them implies you trust them so go through with that and actually do it.
I think that today society has brain washed us in to believing that if we have to ask for help then we need to turn in our woman card because according to our society we should be able to be a mother, wife, career woman, girlfriend, activist, and have a hobby. now i don't know about you ladies but just the first one in that long list is a full time job. Any sane person would need help. so babies don't feel bad about asking for help. feel like you are taking care of not only the people around you but yourself as well. I know its hard but the more you do it the easier it will get i promise.
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Dealing with a busy life
Ah Ma Petities come have a cup of coffee with me.
Your Mama is a stressed out lady and so I thought that this would be a good time to talk to you about stress and the way you should deal with it.
We all have stress in our lives and if you are anything like mama sometimes it can be overwhelming. You end up with some big plan looming in the near future and instead of looking forward to it you begin to dread it a little because of everything that gets piled on you to prepare for this plan. This is not a fun state to be in and we all know it. So let me give you a few tips that are helping Mama get through her crazy stress-filled days leading up to a big plan
1.) make a list of everything that needs to get done. this will help you to see all that you have to do and will also give you the satisfaction of crossing things off the list.
2.) break that list up into the days you have left before what ever you have planned. wither it be a party, wedding, or trip doing this can make the list seem less overwhelming and give you the joy of completing the tasks on your list with out the guilt of worrying about everything that hasn't been done yet.
3.) Ask for help. your man, friends, and family do not enjoy seeing you stressed out so let them help where they can. this not only lightens your load a bit but it also strengthens your relationships and builds a deeper trust in each other
4.) Try to keep calm when/if plans change. there is a saying that you should remember. it is: "men plan, God laughs." while i would like to say that this doesn't apply to us because we are women, i can't. I have a feeling that God laughs at us women more since we tend to be the planners in life. So when plans change try to stay calm and go with the flow, remember the willow and its strength.
5.) Last but not least reward yourself. the day before the plan or the day of the plan if you have the time take yourself out to the spa/ salon. get a mani and pedi, your hair washed and styled, and a little bit of make up put on. then buy yourself a cute new outfit and wear it in the very near future. pamper yourself and unwind so you can enjoy whatever it is you have planned.
we all have stressful times Ma Petities but we shouldn't allow that stress to rule our lives or create distance in our relationships. I hope these little tips will help you to de-stress the next big event in your life
Your Mama is a stressed out lady and so I thought that this would be a good time to talk to you about stress and the way you should deal with it.
We all have stress in our lives and if you are anything like mama sometimes it can be overwhelming. You end up with some big plan looming in the near future and instead of looking forward to it you begin to dread it a little because of everything that gets piled on you to prepare for this plan. This is not a fun state to be in and we all know it. So let me give you a few tips that are helping Mama get through her crazy stress-filled days leading up to a big plan
1.) make a list of everything that needs to get done. this will help you to see all that you have to do and will also give you the satisfaction of crossing things off the list.
2.) break that list up into the days you have left before what ever you have planned. wither it be a party, wedding, or trip doing this can make the list seem less overwhelming and give you the joy of completing the tasks on your list with out the guilt of worrying about everything that hasn't been done yet.
3.) Ask for help. your man, friends, and family do not enjoy seeing you stressed out so let them help where they can. this not only lightens your load a bit but it also strengthens your relationships and builds a deeper trust in each other
4.) Try to keep calm when/if plans change. there is a saying that you should remember. it is: "men plan, God laughs." while i would like to say that this doesn't apply to us because we are women, i can't. I have a feeling that God laughs at us women more since we tend to be the planners in life. So when plans change try to stay calm and go with the flow, remember the willow and its strength.
5.) Last but not least reward yourself. the day before the plan or the day of the plan if you have the time take yourself out to the spa/ salon. get a mani and pedi, your hair washed and styled, and a little bit of make up put on. then buy yourself a cute new outfit and wear it in the very near future. pamper yourself and unwind so you can enjoy whatever it is you have planned.
we all have stressful times Ma Petities but we shouldn't allow that stress to rule our lives or create distance in our relationships. I hope these little tips will help you to de-stress the next big event in your life
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Being taken care of
welcome back Ma Petities,
First off i need to apologize for being Mia for the past few days but I have been sick and my honey has been taking care of me and that is where this evening's post comes from.
Now i don't know about you all but i generally hate being taken care of but my honey loves to do it so i have been working on taking it better. In doing this i have found that while i don't like it in a day to day situation i truly enjoy it when I am sick. I love that he goes out of his way to do the little things that might make me feel better especially when i know that it makes him feel better to do so. I have found that i love seeing his manly desire to take care of his woman and to make my world better even if it is for a moment.
So perhaps babies we have been missing a chance to bond with our men in our independence. Perhaps we should let our men take care of us and use the experience to grow our relationships and to see our men in a new light. Because babies there is nothing sexier than a man who takes care of his woman and does everything in his power to make his woman's world a bright shining place.
So babies let your man take care of you this week and see if it doesn't make your world a better place.
First off i need to apologize for being Mia for the past few days but I have been sick and my honey has been taking care of me and that is where this evening's post comes from.
Now i don't know about you all but i generally hate being taken care of but my honey loves to do it so i have been working on taking it better. In doing this i have found that while i don't like it in a day to day situation i truly enjoy it when I am sick. I love that he goes out of his way to do the little things that might make me feel better especially when i know that it makes him feel better to do so. I have found that i love seeing his manly desire to take care of his woman and to make my world better even if it is for a moment.
So perhaps babies we have been missing a chance to bond with our men in our independence. Perhaps we should let our men take care of us and use the experience to grow our relationships and to see our men in a new light. Because babies there is nothing sexier than a man who takes care of his woman and does everything in his power to make his woman's world a bright shining place.
So babies let your man take care of you this week and see if it doesn't make your world a better place.
Friday, October 8, 2010
Finding the Romance
Hello Ma Petities,
I hope this evening finds you all cozied up with the one you love and wallowing in happiness.
I want to talk you about finding the romance in the little things tonight. So often we make romance out to be this grand gesture when really romance is about the little things that keep the pot of love simmering.
Instead of expecting wine and roses look for the romance in the way your love cares for you wither it be cooking dinner or bringing you a special treat on their way home from work. Spend a day off naked in bed together talking, watching tv, and cuddling. Let the physical sensation of skin against skin fuel a day of romance. I assure you that you'll find yourselves talking intimately, feeding each other, and finding a sensuality you never imagined existed in your relationship.
Take a drive through your city and look at architecture, find new places to explore and make memories together. The memories you make on these trips will stick with you longer than any cliché romantic dinner because they not only move your relationship forward but they also form an unbreakable bond between you and your love.
Find the romance in the little day to day things your love does for you. Appreciate that he always gets you a soda when he gets one for himself, that he kills the spider in the bathroom for you, or that he always makes sure that you are covered so you won't get cold at night. These are just a few examples of the romantic gestures our men make for us that so often go unnoticed. We are so brain washed by the media to think that only the gestures that hit us over the head like a two by four are romantic that we fail to see the beauty in the little day to day things that keep a relationship going.
So babies I challenge you to find the daily romance in your relationship and appreciate it. Let it fuel the fire under your pot of love to keep it simmering and hot.
I hope this evening finds you all cozied up with the one you love and wallowing in happiness.
I want to talk you about finding the romance in the little things tonight. So often we make romance out to be this grand gesture when really romance is about the little things that keep the pot of love simmering.
Instead of expecting wine and roses look for the romance in the way your love cares for you wither it be cooking dinner or bringing you a special treat on their way home from work. Spend a day off naked in bed together talking, watching tv, and cuddling. Let the physical sensation of skin against skin fuel a day of romance. I assure you that you'll find yourselves talking intimately, feeding each other, and finding a sensuality you never imagined existed in your relationship.
Take a drive through your city and look at architecture, find new places to explore and make memories together. The memories you make on these trips will stick with you longer than any cliché romantic dinner because they not only move your relationship forward but they also form an unbreakable bond between you and your love.
Find the romance in the little day to day things your love does for you. Appreciate that he always gets you a soda when he gets one for himself, that he kills the spider in the bathroom for you, or that he always makes sure that you are covered so you won't get cold at night. These are just a few examples of the romantic gestures our men make for us that so often go unnoticed. We are so brain washed by the media to think that only the gestures that hit us over the head like a two by four are romantic that we fail to see the beauty in the little day to day things that keep a relationship going.
So babies I challenge you to find the daily romance in your relationship and appreciate it. Let it fuel the fire under your pot of love to keep it simmering and hot.
Saturday, October 2, 2010
The Ex Factor
Evenin Ma Petities,
We all have have them in our relationships whether it be an amours old flame on your side or a clingy ex on his side. Ex's can cause huge problems in a otherwise strong relationship. They cause strife, insecurity and jealousy. With a simple phone call they can ruin a romantic evening or start the day off on a sour note. Those of us who are friends with our ex's need to remember the hurt that those friendships can unintentionally cause our loved ones and take what ever steps necessary to make them feel secure, loved and cared for.
So Here are some tips for doing just that.
Be honest with both your mate and your ex. Let them both know exactly where your relationships with them stand.
Defend your loved one. we all have that ex that is trying to get back into our lives, who bad mouths our current loved one and dismisses our relationship with them. Do Not allow this.
Let your loved one know if you are making semi-plans with your ex. Don't let it blind side them.
Last but not least let your loved one know that no matter what the ex says you love them and have no intention of leaving them. Remind them that your ex is your ex for a reason.
Put these few tips into action and your relationships will be a hell of a lot stronger when it comes to the ex factor
We all have have them in our relationships whether it be an amours old flame on your side or a clingy ex on his side. Ex's can cause huge problems in a otherwise strong relationship. They cause strife, insecurity and jealousy. With a simple phone call they can ruin a romantic evening or start the day off on a sour note. Those of us who are friends with our ex's need to remember the hurt that those friendships can unintentionally cause our loved ones and take what ever steps necessary to make them feel secure, loved and cared for.
So Here are some tips for doing just that.
Be honest with both your mate and your ex. Let them both know exactly where your relationships with them stand.
Defend your loved one. we all have that ex that is trying to get back into our lives, who bad mouths our current loved one and dismisses our relationship with them. Do Not allow this.
Let your loved one know if you are making semi-plans with your ex. Don't let it blind side them.
Last but not least let your loved one know that no matter what the ex says you love them and have no intention of leaving them. Remind them that your ex is your ex for a reason.
Put these few tips into action and your relationships will be a hell of a lot stronger when it comes to the ex factor
Thursday, September 30, 2010
taking an adventure
Welcome Ma Petities,
I want to encourage you to take an adventure today. So often we lose our self in the hussel and bussle of our day to day lives that we don't take the time to see the possiblities for adventure all around us.
In my house we have a planned sponainaty bag. This bag includes three days worth of clothes and the essentials we need to live our lives out of our house. we throw the dogs in the car, grab the bag and then pick a direction to drive in. We have found the most beautiful places in throwing caution to the wind and just going.
our latest trip took us to the cute town of Galena, Il. There we ate at a wonderful diner, strolled breifly along the streets and walked the dogs along the river. We were unable to enjoy as much of the town as we would have liked as we got there later in the day and like most small towns the shops were closed by five pm. The day, drive, and suprises we found made the trip a romantic getaway.
so babies don't worry about the destination. hop in the car with your love and pick a direction. you never know what you'll find but i promise you the trip will be one of the most romantic of your life.
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Let your man be a man
Hello Ma Petities
So how many of us are guilty of saying I don't need help I can do it myself? I know I am. My honey and I are continuously going back and forth about the fact that I won't let him help me. It is a lesson that I am working on myself since he recently brought it to my attention that when I don't let him help me it cuts into his manliness a bit
Now i know that we went through women's lib so that we could tell men that we didn't need their help but I don't think any of us thought about how it would affect the men around us. Allowing them to help us even though we might not need it is such a little thing. yet it means so much to them. Let your man help/do something for you even if it really doesn't help. Let him know that you need him as a woman needs a man.
They make us feel needed so often. We need to find a way to balance our independence with showing our need for them. We need to let them feel like men again.
My honey teases me about the fact that disney movies make me cry with out fail. He loves the fact that his woman who is normally is so strong needs him to hold her while watching cartoons. In that moment I am the ultimate female and he is the uber man. those moments strengthen and deepen our relationship.
Ma Petites find these little moments and your relationship with blossom before you in ways you never imagined. Let your man be a man, give into your femininity and find out how much better the world is when you do so.
So how many of us are guilty of saying I don't need help I can do it myself? I know I am. My honey and I are continuously going back and forth about the fact that I won't let him help me. It is a lesson that I am working on myself since he recently brought it to my attention that when I don't let him help me it cuts into his manliness a bit
Now i know that we went through women's lib so that we could tell men that we didn't need their help but I don't think any of us thought about how it would affect the men around us. Allowing them to help us even though we might not need it is such a little thing. yet it means so much to them. Let your man help/do something for you even if it really doesn't help. Let him know that you need him as a woman needs a man.
They make us feel needed so often. We need to find a way to balance our independence with showing our need for them. We need to let them feel like men again.
My honey teases me about the fact that disney movies make me cry with out fail. He loves the fact that his woman who is normally is so strong needs him to hold her while watching cartoons. In that moment I am the ultimate female and he is the uber man. those moments strengthen and deepen our relationship.
Ma Petites find these little moments and your relationship with blossom before you in ways you never imagined. Let your man be a man, give into your femininity and find out how much better the world is when you do so.
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
appreciating old dogs
Evening Ma Petites,
My honey continuously tells me he is an old dog who can't learn new tricks. I always laugh but I think that it is a very true statement. In fact I think it is true for most men over the age of 25. Men unlike women get set in their way very early on and babies trying to change them is a exercise in futility.
We should embrace the fact that they are old dogs. They are loyal, trustworthy, and while not the best communicators they will do all in their power to show how much they love you.
I think that we women tend to put to much stock in words. Actions speak So much louder than words do. However we always want the words, sometimes more than we want the actions. We need to step back and reevaluate our needs. Personally i would rather have a man who does little things just to show me he loves me than all the hot air of words in the world. Wouldn't you?
Perhaps we simply need to learn to communicate in their language. If we learned how much the little actions meant would the words be as important to us? Maybe we should cut our old dogs some slack, learn to clarify what they meant, and develop tougher skin. I think we also need to learn when we should come to the old dogs to talk. Lets face it Ma petites if you want to just rant about things your girlfriends are a better bet. Old dogs tend to be fixers, while they listen they are coming up with solutions, so if you don't want that you probably shouldn't come to them.
We women are the great communicators so why can't we find a way to communicate with our old dogs. They try so hard to communicate with us. If we put in half their effort we would be able to meet them at least half way. Wouldn't it be nice to be able to say everything in a single touch or the simple act of making them breakfast? Think of all the fights that could be avoided if before getting our feelings hurt we stopped them and said ok this is what i just heard is this what you actually meant? Think how your relationship with the loyal old dog would grow with just a little bit of effort on your part to learn a new trick.
So babies this week appreciate that old dog laying in bed next to you and make the effort to communicate in his language. He might be a little rough around the edges but no one will love you more.
My honey continuously tells me he is an old dog who can't learn new tricks. I always laugh but I think that it is a very true statement. In fact I think it is true for most men over the age of 25. Men unlike women get set in their way very early on and babies trying to change them is a exercise in futility.
We should embrace the fact that they are old dogs. They are loyal, trustworthy, and while not the best communicators they will do all in their power to show how much they love you.
I think that we women tend to put to much stock in words. Actions speak So much louder than words do. However we always want the words, sometimes more than we want the actions. We need to step back and reevaluate our needs. Personally i would rather have a man who does little things just to show me he loves me than all the hot air of words in the world. Wouldn't you?
Perhaps we simply need to learn to communicate in their language. If we learned how much the little actions meant would the words be as important to us? Maybe we should cut our old dogs some slack, learn to clarify what they meant, and develop tougher skin. I think we also need to learn when we should come to the old dogs to talk. Lets face it Ma petites if you want to just rant about things your girlfriends are a better bet. Old dogs tend to be fixers, while they listen they are coming up with solutions, so if you don't want that you probably shouldn't come to them.
We women are the great communicators so why can't we find a way to communicate with our old dogs. They try so hard to communicate with us. If we put in half their effort we would be able to meet them at least half way. Wouldn't it be nice to be able to say everything in a single touch or the simple act of making them breakfast? Think of all the fights that could be avoided if before getting our feelings hurt we stopped them and said ok this is what i just heard is this what you actually meant? Think how your relationship with the loyal old dog would grow with just a little bit of effort on your part to learn a new trick.
So babies this week appreciate that old dog laying in bed next to you and make the effort to communicate in his language. He might be a little rough around the edges but no one will love you more.
Monday, September 27, 2010
the lessons we learn from weeping willows
Ma Petities i come to you tonight after talking to my honey about how i love willows.
He thinks willows are sad. He says that trees should be strong and unmovable yet willows just hang letting the world affect them. I have to disagree. Willows are the strongest of the trees in my opinion. They don't just hang letting the world effect them but move and change with the world. Always changing and adapting to the world around them in a way that is a unique ability we women should envy. Humanity as a whole should envy it and try to learn it.
I think we women can learn a lot from willows. they are the ultimate survivors. They thrive in places with shaky foundations. They twist and turn growing in angles that while not always the prettiest support them on ever changing landscapes. They have the amazing ability to bend and give so that they might go on. With that ability they embrace the world around them and make the most beautiful music as they dance with the wind.
So often we women feel the need to make stands and stubbornly refuse to bend. We dig our heels in and babies those spike heels hold us firmly in place. Yet in doing so we miss out on golden opportunities to learn from elders, friends, lovers, and many others. Our refusal to bend stifles the music we could be making with the world around us. It limits us and all we could do. We close doors in our life with our refusal to bend and our stubborn resistance to change.
I fully agree that sometimes we need to stand our ground like the mighty oak tree but I think that more often than not if we took a page from the graceful willow and bent a little we would be better off as a society in general. Think of all the amazing things we could do in the world, our communities, relationships and lives if we just gave a little bit, thought out side the box, and opened our minds and hearts to change.
So Ma petities find the beauty in the graceful dance of wind in the willows, open yourself to change, and bend a little today.
He thinks willows are sad. He says that trees should be strong and unmovable yet willows just hang letting the world affect them. I have to disagree. Willows are the strongest of the trees in my opinion. They don't just hang letting the world effect them but move and change with the world. Always changing and adapting to the world around them in a way that is a unique ability we women should envy. Humanity as a whole should envy it and try to learn it.
I think we women can learn a lot from willows. they are the ultimate survivors. They thrive in places with shaky foundations. They twist and turn growing in angles that while not always the prettiest support them on ever changing landscapes. They have the amazing ability to bend and give so that they might go on. With that ability they embrace the world around them and make the most beautiful music as they dance with the wind.
So often we women feel the need to make stands and stubbornly refuse to bend. We dig our heels in and babies those spike heels hold us firmly in place. Yet in doing so we miss out on golden opportunities to learn from elders, friends, lovers, and many others. Our refusal to bend stifles the music we could be making with the world around us. It limits us and all we could do. We close doors in our life with our refusal to bend and our stubborn resistance to change.
I fully agree that sometimes we need to stand our ground like the mighty oak tree but I think that more often than not if we took a page from the graceful willow and bent a little we would be better off as a society in general. Think of all the amazing things we could do in the world, our communities, relationships and lives if we just gave a little bit, thought out side the box, and opened our minds and hearts to change.
So Ma petities find the beauty in the graceful dance of wind in the willows, open yourself to change, and bend a little today.
Sunday, September 26, 2010
when things get messy
Ma Petities some times your kitchen can get messy. Even when you do your best to keep up with it, lets all be honest; dirty dishes multiply like rabbits and a clogged sink can ruin a week.
Relationships are like that too. you work your hardest to keep up with things but they just go to pot. However don't get discouraged. Look at your Relationship the same way you would tackle that messy kitchen. Everyone even mama has to get out the elbow grease occasionally and really scrub.
Start with the biggest problem wither it be the dishes that have taken over every square inch of counter space or the ex girlfriend trying to worm her way back into your man's life. Decide how best to handle it and then get to it. Don't dawdle! Ma Petities, trust me when I say the longer you wait to clean that kitchen or hash things out with your man the worse it will get.
Once you have cleaned things up you will feel a hundred times better because there is nothing better than cooking in a clean kitchen or making love to the man you love when there is nothing between you but love, trust and sweat.
So get cleaning and cleansing. start the week off right. you'll be happy you did.
Relationships are like that too. you work your hardest to keep up with things but they just go to pot. However don't get discouraged. Look at your Relationship the same way you would tackle that messy kitchen. Everyone even mama has to get out the elbow grease occasionally and really scrub.
Start with the biggest problem wither it be the dishes that have taken over every square inch of counter space or the ex girlfriend trying to worm her way back into your man's life. Decide how best to handle it and then get to it. Don't dawdle! Ma Petities, trust me when I say the longer you wait to clean that kitchen or hash things out with your man the worse it will get.
Once you have cleaned things up you will feel a hundred times better because there is nothing better than cooking in a clean kitchen or making love to the man you love when there is nothing between you but love, trust and sweat.
So get cleaning and cleansing. start the week off right. you'll be happy you did.
good food is like good sex
welcome once again Ma Petities.
As i pulled another batch of cookies from the oven this week i was struck by the way good food can be like good sex. Now cookies are a simple treat. easy to make but utterly delicious. they warm, comfort and satisfy you in a way no other treat can. Just like sex. however just like sex a simple mistake can seriously screw up a good thing. So wither you are making a batch of cookies for your honey or cookin up a recipe for some naughty fun take your time. Let the act of preparing be part of the sumptuous act of partaking of your treat.
cookies like sex also come it a wide and sometimes surprising flavors. I encourage you all to not judge a cookie or sex by what you think. but by the way the flavor sinks into and makes your body sing. Sugar cookies are all well and good but the wicked flavors of a double chocolate kiss will haunt your taste buds for hours. So it is with sex. Don't let fear keep you from walking on the wild side and creating your own haunting recipe.
Welcome to the dark side Ma Petities have a cookie ;)
As i pulled another batch of cookies from the oven this week i was struck by the way good food can be like good sex. Now cookies are a simple treat. easy to make but utterly delicious. they warm, comfort and satisfy you in a way no other treat can. Just like sex. however just like sex a simple mistake can seriously screw up a good thing. So wither you are making a batch of cookies for your honey or cookin up a recipe for some naughty fun take your time. Let the act of preparing be part of the sumptuous act of partaking of your treat.
cookies like sex also come it a wide and sometimes surprising flavors. I encourage you all to not judge a cookie or sex by what you think. but by the way the flavor sinks into and makes your body sing. Sugar cookies are all well and good but the wicked flavors of a double chocolate kiss will haunt your taste buds for hours. So it is with sex. Don't let fear keep you from walking on the wild side and creating your own haunting recipe.
Welcome to the dark side Ma Petities have a cookie ;)
Sunday, September 19, 2010
love lessons
Evenin' Ma Petities...
while looking over my kitchen today I decided that I wanted to talk to you about love today. Now I am a firm believer in the old saying that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. I think every woman should know how to cook so that she can put her love into the food she serves her man. because food my babies is how we can all connect with one another.
with a good home cooked meal you can heal the bruises inflicted by a hard day in the world, soothe hurt feelings, enrich a love, and make a sensual foray into mental foreplay.
now i can hear all you feminist out there raging at me about thinking that all women should know how to cook. But listen to mama when i say that looks and personality may hook a man but a woman who can cook will keep her man.
don't let cooking be a chore. make it sensual, comforting, and full of love. in doing this you will find that not only does your ability to love grow but the love that you and your partner have will blossom into full bloom.
while looking over my kitchen today I decided that I wanted to talk to you about love today. Now I am a firm believer in the old saying that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. I think every woman should know how to cook so that she can put her love into the food she serves her man. because food my babies is how we can all connect with one another.
with a good home cooked meal you can heal the bruises inflicted by a hard day in the world, soothe hurt feelings, enrich a love, and make a sensual foray into mental foreplay.
now i can hear all you feminist out there raging at me about thinking that all women should know how to cook. But listen to mama when i say that looks and personality may hook a man but a woman who can cook will keep her man.
don't let cooking be a chore. make it sensual, comforting, and full of love. in doing this you will find that not only does your ability to love grow but the love that you and your partner have will blossom into full bloom.
welcome to my kitchen of love
hello ma petities and welcome to my kitchen. pull up a chair, have a cookie and listen as mama shy tells you the secrets of life.
my first lesson to you all is that life is not about destination but about your journey. Everyone is a sum of all their life experiences; some of which you have to over come and others that you wish you could wrap around you and keep always. enjoy your journey babies. savor it like a good meal. let every moment fill you up.
Now mama isn't saying that you shouldn't have a destination in mind but don't be so focused on that destination that you miss out on the beauty of the simple things around you today in this very moment or the joy of being able to taking a side trip to broaden your horizons with a moments notice.
I want you all to stop at least once today and revel in a small thing. wither it be enjoying the complexities of the meal you are eating, wallowing in the sensation of cool sheets against your skin or losing your self in the scent of a late blooming rose.
enjoy the world around you ma petities. let it enrich your life and make you wiser.
my first lesson to you all is that life is not about destination but about your journey. Everyone is a sum of all their life experiences; some of which you have to over come and others that you wish you could wrap around you and keep always. enjoy your journey babies. savor it like a good meal. let every moment fill you up.
Now mama isn't saying that you shouldn't have a destination in mind but don't be so focused on that destination that you miss out on the beauty of the simple things around you today in this very moment or the joy of being able to taking a side trip to broaden your horizons with a moments notice.
I want you all to stop at least once today and revel in a small thing. wither it be enjoying the complexities of the meal you are eating, wallowing in the sensation of cool sheets against your skin or losing your self in the scent of a late blooming rose.
enjoy the world around you ma petities. let it enrich your life and make you wiser.
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